“When we throw out the physical clutter, we clear our minds. When we throw out the mental clutter, we clear our souls.” –Gail Blanke from “Throw Out Fifty Things”.
Gail Blanke explains how we tell ourselves we’re not good enough, how we compare ourselves to others and come up feeling short.She gives us personal examples of her life. An example from my life is this.
Since I read that article in the NY Times Book Review “Memoir” about how the genre of memoirs is so bloated that it “just has to stop”, I have felt inadequate. I’ve thought the project of writing my memoir was something I could carry out until I read that article. Plus, I feel that if I do write my memoir it will get lost in the thousands of others. And if someone does pick it up to read they wouldn’t learn anything from my life.
The article underlined all my doubts. It said loud and clear what I’ve worried about all along. In my post of “3 Memoirs not worth reading and one OK” readers encouraged me. You gave me hope and reasons to write mine. If the writing was superb, I should go ahead, you said. Course I don’t know if I can write superb. I only have one essay published and one children’s book that a publishing house is looking at. That’s not a lot to build confidence on.
To throw away that piece of mental clutter I’ll have to re-negotiate with myself.
I have tons of journals. A file cabinet full in fact. I want to make that private writing public. I want to summarize those life lessons for myself if for no one else. I’m going to write my memoir for myself. My reasons will be that I’m trying to make sense of my life. And that will bring me joy and clarity. I will grow from the writing of it.
Gail Planke wants me to affirm everyday. “I will not compare myself with others, nor them with me. I will appreciate my self and others for what I and they contribute.”
Gail Planke’s steps to help one get rid of “needless negative comparisons and dump debilitating feelings of inadequacy” are:
—Let go of the old adage “No one’s indispensable”. Everyone counts. Whatever you can contribute is valuable. Give what you can every chance you get.
— Let go of thinking that you need to know about or be good at everything. Celebrate what you do know.
— Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that to make a big difference you have to make it to the big time.
— Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s childish and pointless. You can be you and let others be whomever and whatever they are…
So I say the affirmation and have thrown out that piece of mental clutter and cleared my soul.
Do you compare yourself to others? How?
Do you have mental clutter you could throw out? What is it?
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